A Conversation with You

In my last blog post I talked about the need for taking charge of your life. How do you do it? One idea is what I call a conversation with you.

There are so many of us who seek feedback from everybody concerned about the life which surrounds us, and look at our lives through the eyes of somebody else. Yes, through the eyes of somebody else. And we start believing over a period of time that the others’ perspective and feedback about us is the real ‘me’. I believe that what we need is two pairs of good eyes to look at ourselves; to have a conversation with us as a first step to taking charge of our lives.

How do you have that conversation? I believe that a good thing to do would be to stare at a mirror, look at yourself and, for a change, have a very long conversation with ‘you’. That reflection of you is actually your best friend, because that is really you. That is who you grew up with; that is who you dreamt with; that is how you created the desires; that is the person you talked to the first time you fell in love; and that is the person with whom you shared all your aspirations and all your hidden desires; or what you wanted to do with life.

I suggest:
- Staring at the mirror and having that honest conversation
- Asking the question “What do you think of yourself?”
- Feeling great about that conversation
- and finding what is really good about you
is going to be the first step of taking charge of your life.

I think that feeling great about the focus you have provided in your life and defocusing away from what everybody else says about you is going to be a first step of taking charge of your life.

I have seen many people take charge of their lives suddenly out of the blue. That has come out of an incident, a reflection, or a feedback, which just woke them up saying, “What the hell am I doing? Why am I wasting time listening to all this? Why don't I listen to myself?”

I think this might have happened to some of you also, I'm very interested that you share with me and with the rest of us, how having a conversation with yourself changed your way of looking at life; you taking charge of your life; making a big difference to yourself; and being happier today.